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By: How Do You Define Health at Every Size? « Two Zaftig Chicks

How Do You Define Health at Every Size? « Two Zaftig Chicks — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:32:00 +0000

[...] addition to what I would call unintentional weight gain, I purposely gained weight when I auditioned for The Biggest Loser. Yes, I know, stupid, stupid, stupid. I did assume once I stopped stuffing [...]

By: Bianca

Bianca — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 14:34:58 +0000

So much yes!! My husband met me when I was in the middle of an eating disorder, and I have gained weight since we first met 3 years ago. And he loves me however I am. He wants me to be healthy and happy, and refuses to take the bait when I start hating on myself.

It’s awesome that you have found someone like that too.

By: Catharus

Catharus — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 13:19:33 +0000

This may take away my feminist cred, but one of the things that helps me from slipping into self-hate is that I finally got together with someone who desires me in the way and shape that I am now. It’s 100% harder when you think that person might like you better or be more proud to be seen with you if you were just a little thinner, but to have someone who unabashedly loves your fat self, that’s pretty damn awesome.

If this blog was in TV form, I’d totally watch it!

By: Ruth

Ruth — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 16:10:10 +0000

You are an amazing writer for one! Second, body image is always a struggle for all women. I struggle all the time with mine. It’s something that I daily have to work for and have now redirected those thoughts when they come into my mind to thanking God for the legs i have to walk, the arms and hands to hug someone, a stomach to eat, a face to show emotions, eyes to see my loved ones, a heart to feel love… ect.
Thanks for the post!
ps- Maybe instead of finding validation on TV you can find it here on your blog!
I will be your fan

http://shefit.wordpress.com

By: Frances

Frances — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 04:49:29 +0000

I love this post. Even though I usually come to Zaftig for the lolz, I love this post.

I have a great self-esteem, but of course it’s not impenetrable. There are triggers, like when I have a week where every single family member tells me to lose weight. Or when I try to buy pants and nothing fits because, not only am I fat, I have a butt like a table. And I don’t always get along with my upper arms or my double chin.

But this isn’t limited to fatties. Thin people want to change so many parts of themselves. Self hate is universal.

I think the important thing is that you don’t let it cripple you. If you can recognise that these thoughts are not fact, that they are temporary and that deep down you know you’re awesome you’ll be fine. We all have moments of weakness, but they’re just that: moments.

PS. I tried out for Australian Idol. Twice. Can you guess how many times I choked?

By: Bianca

Bianca — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 00:01:07 +0000

I am ok the way that I am right this minute and I know that completely. I hope you do too.

Yes, and usually I do. The funny thing is when I went to write this post, I wanted to talk about something completely different. But this came out instead. The one thing you will always get from us is the truth about what we are feeling. Good, bad, ugly or fat.

By: Bianca

Bianca — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 23:51:27 +0000

Where are you shopping? If all they have is elastic waist pants, and that's not what you want, girl you need to get online and find some stuff. Here's a post at Shapely Prose that lists some etsy options.

By: Anna

Anna — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 22:49:29 +0000

You *can* get stronger, you *can* do a million things–keep going for it, knowing you have everything you need to make that happen in this body.

Too fat? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4oxaZlzjzI

By: Jodie

Jodie — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 21:49:31 +0000

I thought your post was very honest and I totally respect that. Look, I accept my body and myself the way I am…I speak about it publically for God’s sake. But – that said, I would be lying if I didn’t still have the ocassional ‘If only I were thin” fantasy. This occurs most often when my knees are killing me, or I’m panting up a staircase. I believe that “fat acceptance” is simply “self acceptance” and that can take many forms and is a very fluid thing. I love myself. I am not going to put off living any more due to my size or weight. I am ok the way that I am right this minute and I know that completely. I hope you do too. That doesnt’ mean it may not one day be different (one day smaller…maybe one day bigger?) I am ok with that too and I think that we can discuss doing things for our bodies that are healthy and sane but not be flogged for not being fat acceptance-related. I think it’s all fat acceptance and/or self acceptance. good post!

By: LoopyLoo

LoopyLoo — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 21:34:19 +0000

I just returned from the mall where I went to buy a couple new pairs of pants. It was sheer misery, being surrounded by thinner women and looking at cute pants in sizes I don’t fit into before resigning myself to the Big Woman’s store where the elastic-waistband stuff lives. I came home resolving to lose weight… which I know is stupid and pointless, but oh how I’d love to wear those normal sized, cute things. (And I’m not really going to try to lose weight. It’s just… well, you know.)